As I sat down to write this, I wasn’t sure where to start and thought to myself “Maybe I’m not ready for forgiveness yet.” What I meant, of course, was writing a post on the topic of forgiveness, but as the thought crossed my brain, I remembered hearing the words “We teach what we want to learn.”. Hmmm, it looks like I have some forgiving to do! That’s not so surprising, I guess, since forgiveness is an on-going, life-long process that should be practiced daily.
A lack of forgiveness keeps us attached to incidents which happened in the past. Forgiveness releases us from the past, and stops us from recycling anger and blame. Unfortunately, forgiveness is one of those things that is easier said than done. The deeper the emotional wound, the harder it is to contemplate forgiveness.
Forgiving someone who has wronged you is not condoning or approving of their actions, nor does it make you weak. It takes a great deal of emotional energy to hold on to anger, resentment and grudges. When you forgive someone of their wrong-doings, it allows you to release all of the negative energy you are holding towards that person; negative energy that is being stored somewhere in your body and may be manifesting itself as disease, pain or even a negative behaviour pattern. Quite often if you find yourself stuck in an old behaviour pattern despite all of your efforts to change, there is an underlying emotion behind the behaviour – maybe guilt, fear, resentment, shame or embarrassment.
I know of a lady who had Irritable Bowel Syndrome for over 6 years. She went through all of the usual medical channels, and finally found herself seeing a physician who is a leading specialist on IBS here in Canada. After reviewing her medical and personal history, his “prescription” for her was to make peace with her father. This lady had an abusive relationship with her father and hadn’t spoken with him in several years. She thought the doctor’s advice was absurd, but having tried every other non-surgical option available to her, she confronted her father. After a while, she forgave her father and did in fact make peace with him, as the specialist had instructed. To her surprise, her body healed and the IBS was gone. She had the courage to open her mind to her doctor’s guidance, and she could not be happier with the result!
If you are holding onto an old wound from the past, here are a few ways that may help you to move beyond it into a healthier, happier new you:
- Essential Oils are an amazing tool to help balance your emotions. The oils in Young Living’s “Forgiveness” blend have a powerful effect on the emotions that can raise your vibrational frequency, balancing the emotions and bringing about a more positive outlook. Raising your vibrational energy is so incredibly important for healing the body and the mind. If you can allow yourself to come to a place of forgiveness, you will transform your life. Other great blends to use are Release, Into the Future, White Angelica, Harmony and Hope to name a few. Try diffusing, wearing as a perfume or massaging clock-wise around the heart and navel. ~~ Order Essential Oils Here ~~
- Another amazing tool for clearing negative energy and helping you to forgive is Emotional Freedom Technique (also referred to as EFT or Tapping). EFT is an extremely efficient and simple way to clear pent-up negative energy from the body. I’m not going to go into the specifics of tapping because it would be a post of its own, but if you would like to learn more about it check out Brad Yates’ website for more information and resources. Brad is an excellent EFT practitioner with a down-to-earth style of tapping. Otherwise, stay tuned for one of my future posts where I will discuss the magic of EFT. Try using Essential Oils while tapping for an even greater effect.
- Writing or Journaling. Getting your negative thoughts and feelings out of the body and onto paper can be incredibly therapeutic. You could write a letter to the person you need to forgive, and it’s up to you if you ever choose to mail it. You could tear it up into little pieces once you’re done writing, it doesn’t matter. You could also write in a journal if that is something you enjoy. Create a sacred space for yourself where you won’t be interrupted and put all of your thoughts and feelings on paper until you feel a shift in your energy.
Keep in mind that forgiving yourself is as important, if not more so, than forgiving someone else. Self-love and forgiveness are keys to improving your health and your quality of life. Forgiving yourself for your own past mistakes will change your life.
Of course, if you feel you simply cannot forgive someone for your own health, remember the words of Oscar Wilde:
“Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.”