5 Ways to Build Self-Confidence

February 2, 2010 in Anxiety, Blends, Calming, Inspirational, Lifestyle, Relaxation, Young Living Essential Oils by Jonell Elder | No comments

Self-Confidence is a daily struggle for many to achieve, and the cause of lacking self-confidence may come in a multitude of forms. It could be difficult to feel self-confidence due to our upbringing, relationships, health issues, ridicule from peers, appearance, work environment or even the community we live in. What ever the reason for lacking self-confidence, there is always the possibility of gaining self-confidence.

The people that you associate with can have an effect on your self esteem and your self esteem will not be helped by a pessimistic view that may be coming from others, which may also be causing you feelings of pessimism. Best thing to do, if possible would be to disassociate with those that bring you down.

Even the past can cause a lack of self-confidence. The past is just that, the past, nothing you can do can change it, so move away from thoughts of what was, and let it go.

“You have brains in our head. You have feet in our shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You are on your own. And you know what you know. You are the one who’ll decide where to go” Dr. Seuss

5 Ways to build self- confidence

1. What are your desires? (Valor Roll On essential oil blend)

Join in somewhere that works towards your desires.

Do you yearn to have confidence to speak in front of people? Toastmasters is an excellent organization to get involved with to help with this.

Would you like to get on stage to act, dance or sing? Join a theater class, take dance class or voice lessons.
Have you thought how you would like to feel safer by knowing ways to protect yourself? Seek out martial arts.

These are just a few ways that will help to push your comfort zone. It may be terrifying the first time, but it gets easier each time you step out of your boundaries, and it could be something you end up loving to do.

2. Compliment three strangers each day. (Joy essential oil blend)

Say something nice to three people every day. This is not the same as commenting on the weather. You will need to take a moment to see something in this person to compliment. This will make their day brighter and help them to feel better, and it will help you to feel more comfortable and confident speaking to others.

3. Volunteer (Gratitude essential oil blend)

There are many ways to volunteer, and by doing this you are helping others that need our help. When you help others, take the time to listen to their story, the possible regrets and the “if only I would have…..” This puts a different perspective on your own life. You can volunteer at elderly care centers, shelters, cancer clinics, the list is huge. You can touch hearts and they can touch yours. Please read this article… “Why Not Help Out On a Regular Basis”, where I have a list of many different ways to help out.

4. Begin to change what makes you unhappy about yourself. (Acceptance essential oil blend)

Write down ten positive things about yourself. Concentrate on your strengths. We all are born differently and have unique qualities and characteristics. Change what you do not like about yourself. Remember, you are somebody special and confidence comes from within.

5. Take time to relax (Stress Away Roll On essential oil blend)

Take the time to relax in a quiet room.
Sit comfortably with your feet flat on the floor and rest your hands on your legs.
Close your eyes
Breath in slowly through your nose and silently count to six, or whatever feels right for you. Pause for a count of two or three and then exhale.
Exhale for as long as was the inhalation.
Let your mind be quiet. If thoughts come, gently push them away.
Do this for several minutes. How do you feel?

As you may have noticed, with each suggestion I have in parentheses different essential oil blends. These are some of Young Living essential oils that may help you in achieving each step to your fullest, and to help you to connect more with yourself, and to help boost your self confidence.

I have gone into more detail on the use and benefits of these therapeutic grade essential oils in my next article: “Self Confidence and Essential Oils”. Please refer to this article for details of how to use the above mentioned essential oils to help you on your journey of discovering your true self, your self-confidence and gaining a more positive outlook on life and within yourself.

I look forward to hearing from you and pray that you find what you need in life to transform and reach your dreams, your passion, your purpose. May you find the courage to take the steps that will help you in reaching these attainable goals and in feeling the strength within yourself of self-confidence.

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